Even if a child wasn't directly affected by a stressful or traumatic event, she could still be impacted in many ways, including the stress it places on the adults in her life or images she's seen in the news.

There is no right or wrong timeline for how quickly a child will recover from trauma. Some children will experience a period of time in which they perceive everyone else around them having returned to“normal”. It is important not to remove supports too soon, particularly for these children. Providing ongoing opportunities to tell their stories and seek support can help prevent long-term symptoms such as anxiety and depression.

Many factors affect how a child recovers from a tragedy, including the support and resources he receives at home and school, said Dr. David Schonfeld, a nationally renowned expert in school crisis and director of the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement at the University of Southern California. Here are some signs to look out for and ways to support a child.

A supportive response can help a child heal and even grow after a traumatic experience. Here are a few tips:

• Be there: Perhaps the most important thing you can do is talk with—and listen to— your children. “Be present, observant, and let them know we are here for you. That can go a long way,” advises Dr. Schonfeld. Be sure to let them know it is OK to ask questions and share their feelings.

• Be flexible with expectations: “When you have kids that are struggling and they feel they aren’t keeping up to expectations, that puts a lot of stress on them,” says Dr. Schonfeld. Patience, flexibility, and extra attention can all give a child the room he or she needs to heal. This can include gentle reminders or added help with chores or homework.

• Be a role model: Children take cues for how to handle stressful situations from their parents, according to the National Child Traumatic Stress Network. Do your best to model calm behaviors and healthy self-care.

• Take care of yourself: You may be familiar with the advice “put your own air mask on first.” You can’t be a good role model if you are struggling yourself. Go easy on yourself during this difficult time. Take time to make sure you are eating and sleeping well, getting exercise, and receiving proper medical care.

• Seek professional help: If a child you care for has shown signs of distress for more than six weeks after the fires, consider consulting with a mental health professional for an evaluation.

For general information about community and mental health resources, dial 2-1-1

Local Mental health and support hotlines

• North Bay Suicide Prevention Hotline (855) 587-6373

• Sonoma County Suspected Child Abuse Hotline (800) 870-7064

• Psychiatric Emergency Services (800) 746-8181

• Verity Sexual Assault Hotline (707) 545-7273

• YWCA Domestic Violence Services (707) 546-1234

National mental health resources (24 hour)

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255

• The Trevor Project (866) 488-7386 (A 24-hour, confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ youth.)

• Samhsa’s National Helpline (800) 662-HELP(4357) (Referral and information service (English and Spanish) for those facing mental and/or substance use disorders)

• The TALKline (415) 441-KIDS (5437) (A 24-hour Crisis Line for Parents in the Bay Area that provides support, information, service referrals)

• Crisis TEXT Line Text 741741 (Serves anyone, in any type of crisis, providing access to free, 24/7 support and information)